When I first became a dad, I noticed my wife would consistently make friends with other moms she would meet at various events, parks, play dates, etc. I didn’t see any dads doing this.

Dads tend to suffer in silence. We feel we have to wear the “masks” of fatherhood always. These masks/roles can translate to

• The Provider

  • My value is based on what I produce

  • Guilt when not being productive

  • Sacrifice their own needs

• The Stoic

  • The “rock” of the family

  • Avoids vulnerability

  • Emotions may feel weak or unsafe

• The Fixer

  • My job is to solve problems

  • Solution focused instead of listening

• The Lone Wolf

  • I shouldn’t need anybody

  • Avoids deep male friendships

  • Deals with stress alone

• The Fun Dad

  • Leans into play, wrestling, humor

  • My value is tied to the energy I bring

I have heard this story from countless dads. These '“masks” are not inherently bad but if they never come off, problems can arise: depression, anxiety, anger, substance use, shame, etc.

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